What you shouldn’t be asking is “What’s wrong with me?
” Nothing’s wrong with you – they’re hurting/struggling/whatever. Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.
Then you’d wonder if they were talking out of their bum as a gentle way of letting you know that you’re not ‘good enough’.
You’d put yourself in their shoes and remember the good times you’ve had, even if they’re brief, and remember the potential you’ve seen, and then see it for the both of you.
But actually Indian constitution contains both features of a federal constitution and unitary constitution.
Empathy allows you to consider another person’s perspective – if you make it about your feelings, it’s your perspective, which when you deny, rationalise, and minimise the truth so that you can remain in a situation, turns it into a fantasy. Genuine compassion for someone in a difficult situation does not always boil down to doing the easy thing, especially if you doing that, is more about keeping you in your own comfort zone – you may do more harm than good, including to yourself.
They thought they could handle this and didn’t want to miss out – sure you’ve met people when you’re not in the right place and been afraid of letting them go in case they get snapped up by someone else.
It’s recognising the futility of this three-in-an-emotional-bed-situation and wanting no part of it, because even though you are sympathetic and compassionate, this wouldn’t be good for them and it sure as hell wouldn’t be good for you.
It means thoughts popping into your head when you least expect them that you may feel like you have no control over.
It means crying unexpectedly or feeling a sudden surge of anger or a deep wave of sadness.